You clean and pick up consistently, and most days, we moms live in the kitchen. Spending hours cooking only for snacks to win over the gourmet meal you made.
The walls feel like they can swallow you up, and most days are your only friends. Lol, one day, I said that to my husband. He thought I was crazy.
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But why don’t they see all the loads of laundry and endless dishes? And quite frankly, the stuff I am constantly getting rid of.

So how do you not let the clutter steal your peace?
Pick your battles
First off, I don’t care what expert you follow everyone who leads busy lives with kids has a few areas of the home that get neglected at times.
AND THAT IS OK!!
Here is how I see it. I pick my battles in the areas of the home that I feel are most important; the rest, I let go!
That’s right! Let it go! Ya know as Elsa said.
Each season of life is different and so you can return to the mess when it best fits. The key to make sure you actually return to it.
For everyone, certain areas must feel clean and tidy to feel peaceful. If you know those areas, put your focus there.
I am gonna give you a prime example. I have a few areas that I have chosen not to care about because it’s a battle for a later time.
I have a tall jewelry case, and it’s exploding and a mess. It wasn’t always messy because when I worked in the corporate world, I wore most of it daily.
But when I became a stay-at-home mom with babies who like to pull on necklaces and earrings. Jewelry was a no on the daily.
So the jewelry case has sat mostly. But the toddlers/preschoolers here and there have played with things inside.
Mostly the costume jewelry and the jewelry case shows it with tangled chains and things out of place.
But ya know what. I don’t care. Because I chose that battle for a later time. To me, a clean kitchen and bathroom are more important.
No one is going into my case whenever I have company over.
To me my focus is what brings me peace. And what my family needs most.
Rethink your to-do list
There is such a thing as mental clutter. It’s the gazillion things we moms need to plan it’s the never-ending mom, can you…
It’s the I need to call such and such.
The mental clutter can overstimulate us just as much as the psychical clutter can.

So first off, pair down your to-do list.
Instead, focus on three top things for each day the rest, we move forward.
Finds ways to delegate your to-do list. Can you Instacart your groceries?
Can we save money to invest in a self-cleaning vacuum to help with the millions of crumbs?
Did you add anything fun to your to-do list??
This is huge. We all have daily work to do, but what fun stuff did you do?
Each day I would try to build something fun to see and do with the kids, or at least twice a week, I would take the kids out to explore and do things.
Or add something fun to the list you want to do.
Recognize your triggers
We all have things that set us off or make us feel anxious.
What are those when it comes to your home? If need be, write them down.

Then vocalize them with your husband/partner to devise a game plan.
Create a strategy on how you plan not to let those triggers flare up.
Does it mean everyone washes dishes after it’s done? Or we are doing paper plates for a few days cause I am sick of dishes.
It’s about figuring out the game plan to prevent thoughts/triggers from setting you off.
Get out of the house
This strategy is more to help you clear your mind and refocus. Not to escape and return to just feeling down.
Clutter in your home can make you feel less content with being a stay-at-home mom.
Sometimes as moms, when we are home all day, the presence of being home and the to-do list or mess can play like a broken record.
We see the loads we hear the dishes calling.
And it can feel like this broken record dying, and you just want to toss it all out.
Make it a point to get out of the house and do whatever it is.
Have an attack plan
If you have been following a while, you know I have a monthly Decluttering plan.
Doing a Decluttering session is only half the battle. Strategically getting rid of things on the regular is the other half.
I found success Decluttering in small mini-sessions to be successful. Each month I try to tackle a small area in my home.
The impact might now seem like a lot, but if you have ever heard of compound interest, you will know it works.
What used to take a lot longer to do now, I can do my sessions very quickly. I have been through the process, so I understand I grew up with one hoarder parent, and so clutter is a practice I developed and mastered oh so well.
Stop striving for perfection
I think we all can fall into the perfection bug and maybe sometimes feel like our homes are not Pinterest-worthy.
But understand we have the power to transform our home to serve our family by only keeping what serves us.
Read more about perfection and the power of no longer validating that as a goal here.
Focus on the one percent
It’s so often that I hear about people who just want to move fast forward and do a major decluttering session and start new routines right away.
The family doesn’t get on board, and people feel defeated.
Or maybe there is the overwhelmed of even getting started.
I want you to STOP focusing on the whole house and instead on getting 1% better.
Each day each week, and each month, focus on getting 1% percent by removing clutter from your home.
Those small wins will be transformational. And will lead you to make better habits with your clutter.
Progress over perfection always wins!!
What will be your 1% you do today? Share in the comments
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