12 Monthly goals you can accomplish now to change every aspect of your life as a mom.
It’s a new year! We all have our success and failures of the previous year. I know I do. Losing weight totally did not happen for me. How about you? What news years resolutions kinda failed this past year for you? Yet, here we are again a new year. We all kinda have an idea in our heads on what we may want to try to accomplish in the new year. First you need to remember you are more than just a mom.
So how about we get an idea of what we really want for the new year. When I use to work in the corporate world we would have meetings about the company goals. One of the terms often used was S.M.A.R.T Goals. S stands for specific, M stands for measurable, A stands for actionable, R stands for relevant, T stands for time bound.
SMART Goals can really assist you in taking larger goals and focusing them on achievable actionable steps that lead to momentum and finally results. As a Mom, you owe it to yourself to create an action plan. With meal planning, practice schedules, cleaning, and every other awesome unnoticed thing we do for our family. Winging it won’t be the most successful plan. Life happens.
There are a million things we as moms wish we could change about ourselves. Things we wish we could do better for kids. I mean #Momfails are real! This blog post is meant to be a 12-month goal-setting support system. For the next 12 months, we are gonna work on some new year resolutions together.
We overestimate what we can get done in a year and we underestimate what we can do in a decade -Bill Gates
Planning your overall goals is the best thing you can do in actually having a plan to successfully achieve them. Below you will find a goal setting calendar with a monthly goal for each month of the year. You will need to ask your self some questions to help you narrow down your goal and set achievable task and timelines.
January – Reclaim your time
Us moms are great multitaskers but with all the tasks we have to manage sometimes our time management skills can lack. So often I will lay down in bed for the night thinking about the undone task or items I ran out of time to do. So what is a Mom to do when the clock seems to move faster than all the things we need to get done in the day.
Moms often say gosh who has time for that?! But in reality, we might be our biggest culprit. It can be the simplest things but the biggest waste of time. Time vampires can be people, the digital world, and activities that are not working to our benefit helping us be the productive Moms we can be.
For the goal of sticking with a measurable way of seeing where our time is being spent, we are gonna focus on the digital world. Oh, how I love Pinterest. I have gained some awesome tips and tricks to help me in my crazy mom life. But then there is Facebook, Instagram, and so many others.
Answer me this; have you ever like found yourself looking at Facebook or just online line and then 30 mins has passed?
How to reclaim your time
Rescue time is an application you can download on your phone and computer. The goal of rescue time is to help you understand your daily habits so you can be more productive.
This might seem scary to you but if you are serious about changing aspects in your life its time for you to take control of your time. We can never get back lost time. They even have some neat guides and tips on other ways to save time in your life.
February – Build your wealth
Are you knowledgeable about where all your money is truly going? Chances are you fall in one of these categories single Mom, stay at home Mom, Working Mom. No matter which category you are in having kids is expensive. But most importantly us women and our money is an area that we can all improve on.
If you read my backstory I fell into every category I listed above so I understand every aspect of being a woman, mom and money being tight. Lucky me! So that’s why this topic is very important to me and why I strive every year to gain as much knowledge as I can with understanding money and my future wealth.
Suze Orman is my ultimate money guru. Staying focused on our monthly goals this month try listening to Suze Orman’s Woman and Money
You can listen to the book for free if you don’t have an account yet just click here for a free 30-day trial.
This book is filled with action-packed knowledge and steps you can start taking today. It is about 6 hrs of listening time. Do it while cleaning or driving.
Having an emergency fund is one of the most important things you can do. If your a single mom what happens if you lose your job or become injured and can’t work? Stay at home Mom what happens if your husband is unable to work or even worst passes. Working moms your living paycheck to paycheck and year after year is the same.
STOP the cycle NOW! We as moms owe it not only to ourselves but to our kids depending on us. If you were never taught about finances or have no idea where to begin this book is it!
March – Save your Money
Shopping as a mom is like an inevitable chore. I mean there is groceries, clothes and personal needs. If you have never learned about couponing, saving apps, and deal finders. This month will be an educational month with bonus money saving tips.
Coupons are like dollar bills. There are so many ways to get coupons these days. But first I want to talk about online shopping and savings. There are several apps and tools you can use to get the most out of your money. When shopping online my top two favorite saving sites is Honey.
Ebates is one of the easiest rebates programs out there. You install the extension on your browser or app on your phone and while shopping online you gain a cashback percentage. There are hundreds of online retailers apart of their program. Once you have accumulated a certain amount of dollars you can receive it via check or PayPal.
Honey is a fantastic program for automatic coupons. Once again once you install the extension on your browser. During the checkout process, if honey indicates it found coupons you click to accept for honey to apply it instantly.
Now here are two bonus features with Honey. If there is a product you are shopping for you can add the item to your droplist. Honey will then monitor the price. It displays a line graph of the price history of the item and it will notify you when the price changes. So you know you are always getting a deal. To read more about what a droplist is click here.
Finally Honey has a cool program where you’ll earn a percentage back in Honey Gold. Gold is rewarded on the purchase subtotal and does not include tax or any additional fees such as shipping. Once you accumulate 1000 Gold, U.S. members can redeem Honey Gold for a $10 gift card. For my international Moms you too have a Honey gold program! To read more about the program click here.
April – Invest in your self
What happens when you create a savings plan it grows, matures and give back to you when you need it most. So why do so many of us Mom not invest in our selves. Being a mom is one of the biggest sacrifices a woman can make. But if your a mom I don’t even need to tell you why cause you already know.
The fact is though we always put our selves last and get burnt out. This month we are gonna do at least one thing that makes us happy. I want you to find a craft, dance class, fun educational class, girls night out or anything you haven’t done in a while. This could be a hobby or just a couple of hours to your self. Ever felt like you were gonna lose your mind? Frustrated? Clear indication of needing me time.
It’s possible you may not be able to do it monthly but even just carving out a small block of time for you will do wonders to your state of mind. It’s important that we refill our cup sometimes because you can’t give to anyone if you are running of fumes.
May- Organize your life
Cutter equals chaos! When was the last time your de-cluttered your home? Have you ever felt suffocated in your own home or over whelmed by how many things you need to clean or maybe store away. It might be time to fung shui your home.
One of my ultimate favorite things to use to organize my home is small plastic clear bins. Imagine how awesome is it when the kids and hubby can all find what they are looking for and can easily stack the bin when they are done. So easy my 4-year-old has been using this organizing system his whole life and the options are endless.
This month pick just one area of your home that you can use these plastic bins and schedule a time to organize it. You will be glad you did it and can check off a completed task for 2019.
If you are like me and need some inspiration for more organizing tips you have to follow Alejandra.Tv
Alejandra is the real deal. You will find tips and tricks to organize a real home. You will gain insite on why it works and how to achieve it. Also, if you watch her older videos of her smaller home, you can truly apply the techniques to your own life.
June – Rediscover your inner beauty
How many pairs of yoga leggings do you own? Yeah, I am so guilty of it too. #leggings and hoodies are life. How about your hair? Do you bun it often? It works I know. Having curly hair and leaving it down can be a pain when my youngest pulls it all the time. It gets in the way and annoys me.
But moms here is what happens to us. We again start to lose a piece of our selves when we don’t reflect the true beauty we are and feel in the inside. Sometimes its just feels good to look nice once in a while. Don’t believe me. Let’s test it out.
This month you pick a day every week for the next four weeks and you pick a cute outfit and maybe do some basic makeup. Then I want you to sit back and watch the reactions from your family. Listen to the words they say to you and see how your hubby reacts. Then you are gonna write down their reactions. But most importantly you are gonna write down how you felt and what kinda spirit did it put you in.
This experiment is meant to uplift your spirits and help you break out of the blah mom feeling we fill often when we run on autopilot. It’s especially debilitating for stay at home moms. We can struggle with self-identity and depression.
July – Nurture your body and food
It’s now half-way through the year normally people set goals at the beginning of the year to lose weight or get better about their health. But it’s my belief that until your mindset is prepared to do any of those things we are gonna set our selves up for failure and not complete it. So for the past 6 months, you have taken on task and completed them and proven you can do it. But these tasks have helped organize you, renewed you and provided more time.
This month we are gonna focus on health. Working out can be hard to do especially alone. I find that when I have a support group it takes me to levels I probably would not have done alone. This month we are gonna join NEM No Excuse Moms support group. See their mission statement below.
Mission: Our mission is to motivate moms to make their health a priority. Our goal is to create connection, friendship and a sense of belonging in a supportive, encouraging and uplifting environment. We believe that health starts at home and that in order to raise a healthy child, we must be a healthy parent.
Please join any of our free communities, which you can find your local one here: http://www.noexcusemom.com/local-leaders/
This group helped me lose 25 lbs before my last baby. But the encouragement and true friendship was such a blessing. We are just real moms dealing with real life making changes everyday.
It’s a fact a healthy body is made in the kitchen. It’s about the 80 percent we eat and the 20 percent we workout to keep our body strong. This month you are gonna tackle food in a different way.
Food for me is the hardest thing to overcome. So small steps lead to bigger ones and I don’t feel overwhelmed. For July we are going to meal prep. You are going to prep your lunch every day. Meal planning helps to reduce the impulse eating out and saves cost. You also start a healthy habit to which you can then extend to other meals of the day. One victory a day. For my working moms skip the office food temptations at all cost.
I like to use these containers for meal planning
AUGUST – PRACTICE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
As moms we often can take on more then we should. We also sometimes don’t realize the toxic relationships in our world. Remember time vampires in our January goal setting. All these things go hand in hand.
This month you need to take a hard look at the people in your life that may be holding you back or can be a cause of stress. Healthy boundaries a way to establish connections without them becoming a burden. Self-care and mental care play such a vital role in our lives as a mom.
Practicing healthy boundaries can help prevent burn-out, anger and resentment.
Learn to say NO! We can love people without over extending our selves. Family expectations I find can really be a self inflicting wound. In the Latin culture family values are drilled in you as a kid. But as I have grown as an adult I see the many flaws in this as well.
We become everyone’s backup plan, stepping stone, rock etc. But often times they don’t realize the sacrifice or effects it can have on the person. Sometimes it even crosses the line of disrespect. We need to become aware of these dangers so we can be the best mom we can be.
September – Take a Voyage
Are you a hiker mom? Beach Bum Mom? Adventurous Mom? No matter where you fall this month you are gonna take a voyage. The end of summer is coming and kids will return back to school. Before the school year starts try to plan a weekend somewhere.
October – Conquer the mess
House cleaning might be a drag when you always feel that you are having to do a huge over-haul only to have the monsters that live in your home mess it all up in mins. There is a saying to embrace the mess as a mom. But I am not talking about the messy toys on the floor. I am talking about the yucky toilets, never-ending laundry piles, and sticky floors.
Let’s reduce the cleaning process this month for a cleaner home by creating a cleaning schedule. For example: Instead of doing piles of laundry on one day. Do a load of laundry a day or every other day. This will help reduce the loads piling up. Here is my 5 day cleaning schedule.
First, you will need to do a deep clean but after that, each room should have a designated day during the week. It will take so much less time and you will have more time to do the things you want.
November – Find your happiness
Depression as a mom is not something that I think the world talks about often enough. Sure, post-partum or baby blues is something talked about. But mom’s can also suffer from just depression.
Depression comes in many forms as we don’t all experience it the same. But it’s real especially for stay a home moms. My experience of depression began 3 years after being home shortly after my third child. I loved being home it made me so happy but the isolation and losing my self was and isn’t easy. I struggled with identity loss after leaving the corporate world. That was just a tiny piece to the puzzle.
Some days were better than others and some days were horrible. Feeling lost, anxiety, frustrated, unsure of myself, lack of motivation and down right blah. The worst part was trying to explain it to my husband who felt helpless on what to do for me. Or the guilt for even admitting I was depressed because hey you don’t have to work. Complete B.S. and worst thing you could ever say to a mom.
This month you are gonna find your happiest form of you. Chances are you sacrificed something that gave you purpose more than just being a mom. Something that gave to a mental outlet. I finally figured mine out when I decided to start blogging. I needed to have a creative outlet.
So what is it that gives you drive, purpose and identity outside of being a mom? This month you need to search for it. Write it down and take action on getting back into it. Talk to your significant other explain your feelings, this is the first step. You are not crazy and not alone. Depression is real as a mom, but acknowledging it and making a change is the first step. Rid your self of the mom guilt because it will hold you back from being a better mom.
December – Forgiveness
No one is immune to this wonderful thing called anger and resentment. In some point in all of our lives we have had an experience which caused us pain. There can be some times anger we have with our selves for falling short.
Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do because when we remain in the anger we feel in control. If, we forgive the person we feel as though we are letting them win in some way. But in reality you are keeping your own self in a mental prison.
Your level of pain should not be compared to anyone else and your truth is your truth. But your prison is keeping you from moving forward and healing. Realize that humans are flawed. Everyone makes mistakes. These mistakes can be life altering.
You need to make time this month for your state of mind to work-out a beginning action plan of forgiveness. If you are angry with your self for expectations you set for your self as a mom. Maybe it’s time to take that chip off your shoulder and recognize the awesome mom you are. Don’t enter the new year without taking a new step forward. Motherhood is messy!!